The Problem with Problems. Creating New Opportunities.

All life is problem-solving. Our brains have a built-in bias towards negativity. We simply have a greater sensitivity to unpleasant news, it’s more sensational and elicits more of a reaction from us. Why? To keep us out of harm’s way. It’s made us excellent at scanning our environment to look for danger or safety. When it’s safe, our nervous system’s … Read More

What would you do, if you could? Overcome moments of frustration & doubt.

I left her office feeling disappointed and flustered. Each footstep heavier as I walked with frustration back to my desk. I did it again! I could hear a familiar tape starting in my head. Today’s tennis match is brought to you by Fear. Fear– always there! We’ve got your back! In today’s highly anticipated doubles match, Victim &  Doubt are … Read More

What You Resist Persists. Moving Beyond Resistance in Yourself and Your Team

Do these phrases sound familiar: I personally believe that resistance is one of the greatest obstacles we face every day. It takes us out of our flow, stops change in its tracks and keeps us stuck. It’s a big stop sign that prevents us from moving ahead in our lives and being happy. It’s our physical and emotional body’s way … Read More

How to find balance in your life. It’s not what you think.

There’s a trend that I see in the bay area, especially among leaders, at first in my own life and in those around me. “I need more balance in my life.” I get it. I’ve been there. There was a time I was commuting 3 hours a day, working at least 50 hours and more a week with international team … Read More

The Myth of the Unicorn Leader

Present, Charismatic, Caring, Inspirational, Wicked Smart, Empathetic, Understanding, Coaches, Mentor, Strategic Visionary, Honest, Authentic, Respected, Integrous, Vulnerable, Tall, Compassionate, Good communicator,  Wise,  Multiplies, Humorous, Fun, Relaxed, Is my advocate, and Has my back. What a list! No this isn’t my list for “The One”. Well, it is in a way. It’s my list of attributes when I think of a … Read More

Do You Really Want to Be a Leader?

Who grew up saying to their mommy. I want to be a leader one day! Personally, I wanted to be a dancer. All right. I wanted to be Madonna. Ok, really I just wanted to be a hula hoop queen or to be precise, The Hula Hoop Queen. Eventually, during my first job at JC Penney’s I met some really … Read More

Me Too. Why I Raise My Hand.

I usually start my posts by sharing a personal story. This post is different. I’m not. Today I’m writing about the #metoo campaign that’s populated my Facebook feed this week. I rose my hand, as did many. Here is what I posted: “Me, too. If all who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too” as a status, we … Read More

4 Life Lessons From the Life of a Wanderer

It’s been three months since I packed up my life in Santa Cruz to wander the Hawaiian islands. Never have I not had a home and a permanent mailing address. It’s an interesting feeling to call where ever I am in that moment home. When people ask where I’m from I tell them I’m wandering and that my goal is … Read More

How to Take Responsibility in Relationship

I recently spent time with a friend that worked with me over 15 years ago. During our lunch conversation, he brought up the fact that he would see me crying at work and wondered what that was all about. During those years, I did remember crying at work. I was in my first management role and I was in over … Read More

How to Take Responsibility for Your Life

There is something extra stressful and crazy making about meeting your partner’s family for the first time. I still remember my first first. I was incredibly nervous. Luckily it went well. My second first didn’t go as well as the first. The scene, Thanksgiving dinner with my family. My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving and I always try to make it … Read More