How to find balance in your life. It’s not what you think.

There’s a trend that I see in the bay area, especially among leaders, at first in my own life and in those around me. “I need more balance in my life.” I get it. I’ve been there. There was a time I was commuting 3 hours a day, working at least 50 hours and more a week with international team … Read More

The Myth of the Unicorn Leader

Present, Charismatic, Caring, Inspirational, Wicked Smart, Empathetic, Understanding, Coaches, Mentor, Strategic Visionary, Honest, Authentic, Respected, Integrous, Vulnerable, Tall, Compassionate, Good communicator,  Wise,  Multiplies, Humorous, Fun, Relaxed, Is my advocate, and Has my back. What a list! No this isn’t my list for “The One”. Well, it is in a way. It’s my list of attributes when I think of a … Read More

Do You Really Want to Be a Leader?

Who grew up saying to their mommy. I want to be a leader one day! Personally, I wanted to be a dancer. All right. I wanted to be Madonna. Ok, really I just wanted to be a hula hoop queen or to be precise, The Hula Hoop Queen. Eventually, during my first job at JC Penney’s I met some really … Read More

Me Too. Why I Raise My Hand.

I usually start my posts by sharing a personal story. This post is different. I’m not. Today I’m writing about the #metoo campaign that’s populated my Facebook feed this week. I rose my hand, as did many. Here is what I posted: “Me, too. If all who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too” as a status, we … Read More

4 Life Lessons From the Life of a Wanderer

It’s been three months since I packed up my life in Santa Cruz to wander the Hawaiian islands. Never have I not had a home and a permanent mailing address. It’s an interesting feeling to call where ever I am in that moment home. When people ask where I’m from I tell them I’m wandering and that my goal is … Read More

How to Take Responsibility in Relationship

I recently spent time with a friend that worked with me over 15 years ago. During our lunch conversation, he brought up the fact that he would see me crying at work and wondered what that was all about. During those years, I did remember crying at work. I was in my first management role and I was in over … Read More

How to Take Responsibility for Your Life

There is something extra stressful and crazy making about meeting your partner’s family for the first time. I still remember my first first. I was incredibly nervous. Luckily it went well. My second first didn’t go as well as the first. The scene, Thanksgiving dinner with my family. My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving and I always try to make it … Read More

“Tis Better to Have Loved and Lost”

Growing up, I wasn’t one of those girls. You know the ones. They dream of their wedding day and play dress up. Not sure what I’m talking about, watch the movie Bride Wars or Revenge of the Bridesmaids. Really, if anything, I wasn’t going to get married. Growing up in the Air Force, my family moved quite a bit. There … Read More

How to Let Go: Inspiration from the Caterpillar

Butterflies are amazing creatures. One of the things I enjoyed about living in Santa Cruz was that Natural Bridges Park is a winter safe haven for the Monarch Butterfly. I loved taking walks in the hills and being pleasantly surprised when a butterfly floated by. How their colors and design added beauty to the landscape of the hills. Butterflies show … Read More

Beauty & the Beast- How to Find Grace After Rage

I felt the rage in me boiling over and out. My body became electrified and empowered. Energy coursing through me. Pure fury and rage. It’s the scariest thing I’ve felt in my life. She dropped me to my knees to see her in her full power. She was beauty and a beast. [Note to you my dear reader. In my … Read More